Big Mistakes Men Make in Bed That You Can Fix For Better Sex

When it comes to sexual satisfaction, it’s crucial to consider not only learning new techniques but also avoiding common pitfalls. While refining your skills is important, don’t overlook the fundamental aspects that are sometimes neglected, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Here are some mistakes to avoid and tips for better sex:

1. Poor Personal Hygiene

Women generally aren’t very fond of bad smells. But where sex is concerned, personal hygiene may need to be a little more than a quick daily shower. Make sure your nails are trimmed short and filed too. Not only do spiky nails hurt sensitive skin and more important areas, but they harbor bacteria, so keep them in order.

2. Not Enough Foreplay

Good foreplay is essential. It gets a woman lubricated, makes sex more comfortable for both of you and increases her chance of an orgasm. Foreplay isn’t simply a bit of kissing, fondling and token oral. It should be enjoyed in its own right – a time to tease, seduce and build arousal so that sex is even better. Take whatever you think the duration of foreplay should be and double it. In fact, triple it! She’ll thank you for it.

3. Constantly Changing Positions and Techniques

Physical sensations generally aren’t enough for a woman to achieve orgasm; she needs mental focus too. Disrupt that focus and you send her back a step on the road to orgasm. That means that if a position or action is working, keep doing it! Constantly switching positions and techniques is fun to watch. But every time you experiment with a crazy new position or change rhythm, you potentially disrupt your partner’s focus.

4. Not Being Responsive

How much relationship advice revolves around listening? To be a good partner in and out of the bedroom you need to be responsive. It doesn’t have to mean lengthy conversations in the sack, but it does mean paying attention. Try out a position and movement and see how she reacts. Does her breathing deepen? Does she moan? Does she grab you tightly? Does her lubrication increase? If the answer is yes, then you’re doing something right, so continue. Picking up on these little clues isn’t difficult. And if she doesn’t respond positively, stop doing it and move swiftly on.

5. Focusing Too Much on Her Orgasm

This might sound a counter-intuitive, but it’s unhelpful to focus too much on her orgasm, especially if she doesn’t have one. Of course, she’ll probably be very happy if you do bring her to climax. But it helps to accept a simple truth: sometimes it’s just not going to happen.

There are all kinds of reasons for this: tiredness, stress, medication, where she is in her menstrual cycle, whether or not she’s focused enough. But there are times when it’s just not possible. The vast majority of those reasons have nothing to do with you. But if you keep on trying, you’re likely only to make matters worse. Penetration that lasts too long can become painful. Don’t take her lack of orgasm personally. Don’t get in a mood. And don’t make her feel that you’re disappointed it didn’t happen.

6. Stopping Too Soon

On the other side of the coin, there are those that stop too soon. A considerate lover doesn’t deny his partner the chance of an orgasm just because they finished already. Perhaps your partner hasn’t reached climax yet, or perhaps she just wants more. You might be feeling tired and/or content. But if she’s still feeling aroused and in need of more, you should keep your energy up.

And if you have a problem with ejaculation control, remember that your orgasm doesn’t have to be the end of proceedings. Sex isn’t just about penetration, so you don’t need to worry about getting hard again or lasting forever. Move on to use your hands or your tongue.

7. Not Having Fun

Let’s face it: sex is kind of funny sometimes. There are unexpected noises, unusual movements, things that don’t work when they should, odd smells, cramps, and all kinds of other things.

Sex isn’t the time to take yourself too seriously. Laugh when things go wrong. Enjoy the journey, not just the end result. Have fun and ensure she does too. Communicate in a light-hearted, yet respectful way.

Sex can be complicated, and women’s bodies can be a mystery (even to women themselves). But by being open minded and communicating, as well as avoiding these common mistakes, you’ll be just fine.