The Key to Lasting Longer in Bed

What doesn’t want to be great in bed? To have not just good sex, but to have great sex that completely satisfies their partner and themselves before, during, and after? Now, quality of sex varies on a number of factors, from mood to energy level to location. And, of course, we’re kidding ourselves if we think that for anyone, let alone busy, stressed out parents, sex will always be great. But striving to be better at sex is a noble pursuit, and a healthy sex life carries an impressive list of benefits for all parties involved. The better the sex, the more plentiful they are.

So, as everyone needs guidance now and then, we’ve created this list of sex tips for men regarding everything from sex positions and dirty talk tactics to aftercare and orgasm guidance. Consider it a crib notes of tips, tricks, and advice to help bring your sex life from satisfactory to eye-rollingly earth-shattering.

Use Your Mouth

No, not like that (trust me, we’ll get to that soon). We’re talking about using your words. Communication is key to any satisfying sexual encounter. Talk to your partner about your desires and expectations for sex. Remember, you can’t deliver them a good time if you don’t know what they’re craving to begin with.

Talk Dirty

Talking dirty during sex can feel like a daunting task. After all, no one wants to sign up to feel stupid. But the reality is that dirty talk can really elevate the sexual experience. It allows you to communicate what you like and what you want to do to your partner in an exciting way. It also helps keep you in the moment. If you don’t know where to start, take some advice from Dan Savage and “describe what you’re going to do, describe what you are doing, and describe what you just did.”

Do Your Kegels

Men can exercise their kegel muscles too. If you aren’t sure where to locate them, try cutting off urination in the middle of your stream. The muscles responsible for this action are connected to the pelvic floor. The stronger the muscles, the better control you’ll have over your erection, orgasm, and ejaculation.

Don’t Fall Into a Routine

Maybe you’re a creature of habit. Maybe you found a move you really like. Maybe there’s a sex position you typically gravitate towards. It’s good to celebrate the stuff you like. But try not to make that the only thing you do during sex. People crave novelty, especially in the context of a long-term relationship. Don’t let sex become monotonous. Make an effort to mix things up.

Do Sex Out Of The Bedroom

Surveys suggest that people tend to have more sex when on vacation than when at home. Of course, not all of us enjoy the luxury of being able to travel whenever and wherever we want. So start small. Get it on in the living. Or even head into the shower together. Small shakeups in the routine can have a huge impact on your attitude towards sex.

Foreplay Begins Outside the Bedroom

Sex does not begin and end in the bedroom. Do your best to keep sexual communication up throughout the day, especially if you have plans to get it on after work. Send out a sexy text around lunch. Forward over a suggestive meme. Let your partner know you’re thinking about them in that way, even when you’re apart. Flirtation is important to maintain within a relationship. It’s a fun way to punctuate the day. Hold on to that energy, when at home and when not.

Don’t Forget About Aftercare

It’s important to remember that sex doesn’t end after orgasm. Embracing your partner after you pop is also part of the process. A nice cuddle helps communicate intimacy and affection, and those are two very important things to prioritize in any relationship.